Today's Woman
She is a guide, mentor, mother, nurturer, wife, and friend. Today's woman is a new woman in an ever changing new world.
by Rose DesRochers
She speaks up even when it feels
uncomfortable. When life gives her lemons, Today's woman
takes those lemons and makes lemonade.
As a woman, I have the same goals in mind today as my
mother did yesterday. I want just as much to raise and
care for my children in a healthy home environment. The
only difference between me and my mother is that she was
born in 1932, a time of poverty. By the age of 12, she
was at home raising her brothers and sisters instead of
attending school. My mother grew into a woman and took
on the job of mother and wife. She never worked outside
of the home until my father's death in 1988. At this
time she was forced back into the workforce with no
education and little job experience. She took a job at a
factory until ill health required her to retire early.
But she did what she had to do to survive.
Today I want as much for myself and my children as my
mother did. However, as women, we have worked our way
into the right to vote, to fight for equal pay, and to
break away from traditional roles. Some of this
breakdown is good, but I think we might have taken it
too far. No longer is Today's Woman concerned with
equality but we have pushed our way with this feminist
movement until we are now one up on men.
The abortion movement is one such example. The law
allows a woman to take power over a joint decision by
aborting a life made by both man and woman, and the man
has no say over it. Yet the same feminists are demanding
that fathers pay child support and alimony instead of
teaching the single woman to financially support
herself. Feminists have created Today's woman all right,
they have trained and molded her to be a victim.
I am no victim. I am a survivor. I have learned to take
responsibility for everything I do in this life.
Therefore, I have learned there are no victims, only
volunteers. Today's Woman is teaching herself to take
control over something that involves both a man and
woman, like abortion, and yet at the same time, making
her depend on her man's money and encouraging the
government to give her special privileges.
Being Today's Woman should mean that you can make a
contribution to humanity, as a whole. It should be about
finding your passion in life and embracing it with
determination, and being dependant upon yourself, and no
one else. Today's Woman has more than equal rights and
yet she still wants more. She wants to have her cake and
eat it too. Come on, you have to admit that the feminist
way of thinking is pretty much biased. She wants the
same rights as man but has no trouble accepting a few
favors because she has breasts and ovaries.
At one time, the feminist movement actually might have
stood for something--meant something to me as a woman,
but (sadly) not anymore. I was proud to be a feminist
when women were marching up the street and shouting,
"take back the night; don't be a victim." But now,
Today's woman has gone from the nurturing, caring
mother, like my mother was, to a bitter, resentful
woman. Sadly, by the standards of Today's Woman, if you
are not on the side of the line that believes in
aborting the unborn child, and taking Daddy to the
cleaners in a messy divorce, then you're not real women.
Today's woman has labeled all women as victims. By
Today's woman's standards, there is only one way to
think, and that is their way. They have no problem in
playing the helpless female role and taking power over
man. But let's look at this: perhaps it is man who is
really the victim.
Unfortunately, there are too many double standards set
by Today's woman, so maybe I'm yesterday's woman after
all, and I am living in Today's World. Being a mother is
perhaps the most noble, important profession in society.
Maybe I am just a woman who was born in the wrong
century.
I know a young thirty-four year old, single mother, who
is bringing up five children on her own. She is a woman
whom I admire as Today's Woman. She cares about the well
being of her family. She struggles daily to lift her
family out of poverty and provide the best for those
children. She makes the ultimate sacrifice a mother can,
by getting up out of bed despite how she is feeling, and
going to work each day, so she may provide the
necessities for her children. She doesn't have any
"daddy" in the background paying child support and
alimony. She is both mother and father. She is what
Today's Woman should be. Tammy Chambers is a lady whom I
greatly admire as Today's woman, and she could certainly
teach the feminist movement a thing or two.
About the Author:
Rose DesRochers, Canada
http://www.todays-woman.net
Rose is a published author and web columnist. She is
also the founder of Today's Woman a supportive online
community for men and women over 18. Their goal is to
help writers succeed in the writing industry by offering
a useful selection of services including author
interviews, regular columns, interactive forums, and a
place to share your writing for critique by your peers.
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