Savvy womens Magazine


Today's Woman

She is a guide, mentor, mother, nurturer, wife, and friend. Today's woman is a new woman in an ever changing new world.

by Rose DesRochers

She speaks up even when it feels uncomfortable. When life gives her lemons, Today's woman takes those lemons and makes lemonade.

As a woman, I have the same goals in mind today as my mother did yesterday. I want just as much to raise and care for my children in a healthy home environment. The only difference between me and my mother is that she was born in 1932, a time of poverty. By the age of 12, she was at home raising her brothers and sisters instead of attending school. My mother grew into a woman and took on the job of mother and wife. She never worked outside of the home until my father's death in 1988. At this time she was forced back into the workforce with no education and little job experience. She took a job at a factory until ill health required her to retire early. But she did what she had to do to survive.

Today I want as much for myself and my children as my mother did. However, as women, we have worked our way into the right to vote, to fight for equal pay, and to break away from traditional roles. Some of this breakdown is good, but I think we might have taken it too far. No longer is Today's Woman concerned with equality but we have pushed our way with this feminist movement until we are now one up on men.

The abortion movement is one such example. The law allows a woman to take power over a joint decision by aborting a life made by both man and woman, and the man has no say over it. Yet the same feminists are demanding that fathers pay child support and alimony instead of teaching the single woman to financially support herself. Feminists have created Today's woman all right, they have trained and molded her to be a victim.

I am no victim. I am a survivor. I have learned to take responsibility for everything I do in this life. Therefore, I have learned there are no victims, only volunteers. Today's Woman is teaching herself to take control over something that involves both a man and woman, like abortion, and yet at the same time, making her depend on her man's money and encouraging the government to give her special privileges.

Being Today's Woman should mean that you can make a contribution to humanity, as a whole. It should be about finding your passion in life and embracing it with determination, and being dependant upon yourself, and no one else. Today's Woman has more than equal rights and yet she still wants more. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Come on, you have to admit that the feminist way of thinking is pretty much biased. She wants the same rights as man but has no trouble accepting a few favors because she has breasts and ovaries.

At one time, the feminist movement actually might have stood for something--meant something to me as a woman, but (sadly) not anymore. I was proud to be a feminist when women were marching up the street and shouting, "take back the night; don't be a victim." But now, Today's woman has gone from the nurturing, caring mother, like my mother was, to a bitter, resentful woman. Sadly, by the standards of Today's Woman, if you are not on the side of the line that believes in aborting the unborn child, and taking Daddy to the cleaners in a messy divorce, then you're not real women. Today's woman has labeled all women as victims. By Today's woman's standards, there is only one way to think, and that is their way. They have no problem in playing the helpless female role and taking power over man. But let's look at this: perhaps it is man who is really the victim.

Unfortunately, there are too many double standards set by Today's woman, so maybe I'm yesterday's woman after all, and I am living in Today's World. Being a mother is perhaps the most noble, important profession in society. Maybe I am just a woman who was born in the wrong century.

I know a young thirty-four year old, single mother, who is bringing up five children on her own. She is a woman whom I admire as Today's Woman. She cares about the well being of her family. She struggles daily to lift her family out of poverty and provide the best for those children. She makes the ultimate sacrifice a mother can, by getting up out of bed despite how she is feeling, and going to work each day, so she may provide the necessities for her children. She doesn't have any "daddy" in the background paying child support and alimony. She is both mother and father. She is what Today's Woman should be. Tammy Chambers is a lady whom I greatly admire as Today's woman, and she could certainly teach the feminist movement a thing or two.

About the Author:
Rose DesRochers, Canada
Rose is a published author and web columnist. She is also the founder of Today's Woman a supportive online community for men and women over 18. Their goal is to help writers succeed in the writing industry by offering a useful selection of services including author interviews, regular columns, interactive forums, and a place to share your writing for critique by your peers.