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Dating Dilemma: The Man Who Said He'd Call and Didn't

You went out with the guy. You both had a great time (or at least you thought he did!). You said goodnight, and he said he'd call you.

He didn't.

Why? What did you say to offend him? Was it your hair? Your clothes? Your weight? What's wrong with you, anyway?

The answers to those questions are as follows: Who cares? Nothing, no, no, no, and not a damn thing.

Every woman in the world--no matter how thin, beautiful, smart, kind or talented--has been disappointed by a guy she really liked who said he'd call but didn't.

Whatever you do, don't call him. Why? Because he said he'd call you, and he didn't. Which means that either his word is no good (better to know that early on!), or that he accidentally threw away your phone number with the tin foil he wrapped his peanut butter sandwich in.

Yes, of course women have every right to phone a man (as long as they're cool about it), but why put yourself at a disadvantage by calling someone who pretty much lied to you? Who needs it?

Now, before you fall into the funk that says you're never going to get married, all your dates end badly, you're getting older by the second, you're going to die alone...

STOP!

The truth is, the guy has done you a favor. He's not right for you, and in a cowardly manner he's let you know that immediately, rather than stringing you along for weeks. Rejection always hurts, sure, but it happens to everybody. And you're a big girl; you'll definitely get over it.

Remind yourself of what you have to offer, of what makes you special. Know that if somebody with your fine qualities exists, surely a man with the good taste to love and appreciate you exists.

Know this: The world is full of much better men than the toad who let you down. And every rejection you face is a step toward the right man, the one who's truly worthy of you and will add to your happiness.

About the Author
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com.